God Wrote My Love Story

3 months ago
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by Neressa S Henry
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I’m MARRIED, ya’ll!

When he approached me, I wondered who this stranger was and what he was doing. Then, it was solely God.

OH, only if it was that simple, lol

I still have not gotten used to being married or even saying I am somebody’s wife.

Yes, it’s something I prayed for, but I would have imagined the way it happened.

How We Meet:

At church.

Lol, that’s it. We meet at church, but not in the way you would think.

At the time, I attended church, participated in the worship team, and minded my own business. I was adamant about waiting and wanting what God had for me. Also, I had recently stopped speaking to what some would call a counterfeit. We weren’t dating, just conversing, but my discernment was strong!

Counterfeit definition: made in exact imitation of something valuable or important with the intention to deceive or defraud

The enemy will send a counterfeit to distract you from God’s pick for you.

I kid you not. I stopped speaking to the counterfeit on Thursday, and by Sunday, God opened my eyes to the man who would be my husband. That Quick!

Sunday Service:

The church we attend is relatively small as it is a new, evolving ministry. Service proceeded as usual, and then it was time for worship. I was on the worship team that day as a backup; while worshipping, something happened that I could not explain.

While I ministered, my eyes zeroed in on this one person, and I noticed he was also watching me. I thought to myself, I hadn’t seen him at church in a while, and As I continued to worship, I found myself staring at him more than usual, and he was staring at me as well. I immediately broke the connection and continued to worship.

Our eyes met again while I ministered, and I broke the connection yet again. I wondered why this was happening, and I began to pray in my spirit against the spirit of lust. If I could have talked in tongues, I would have!

I began to feel like I was sinning. I was supposed to be ministering to God and not ADMIRING A MAN FROM THE PULPIT, much less.

OH God! What was happening!!!

I couldn’t grasp it. After worship, the service continued. I didn’t think about the situation again, nor did we connect again throughout the service.

Later that evening, the Holy Spirit brought back the whole scenario to me in my room.

This is how the conversation went:

ME: “What was that earlier?”
Holy Spirit: “You should message him and tell him it was good to see you at church today.”
ME: “ME?”
Holy Spirit: “Yes”
Me: “Okay, I’ll do it in the morning.”

Knowing that I’m forgetful, I figured the Holy Spirit would remind me if it were meant for me to message, right?

And that he did.

Around 10 a.m. on Monday, the Holy Spirit reminded me to message him and he responded.

The next day, he wanted to purchase one of our BE THE LIGHT Cards!

My sister in Christ, who is also my coworker (Sis Dezika), saw when he was leaving with the cards, and she said he had a BIG smile on his face as he left our workplace.

He was Excited. I mean, I was too.

We never stopped speaking from that day.

Two weeks in, I spoke to another sister in Christ about it, and she suggested that we talk to our church leader. Therefore, we made an appointment to meet with her. We explained what happened and that God brought us together. The news also took her aback, but she didn’t have any qualms; one thing she did ask by the leading of the Holy Spirit was if what we were feeling was infatuation, which we answered no.

She paused, then said, ” Okay. ” She then ministered to both of us regarding our steps forward since there was an obstacle.

There was just one thing.

He was Married.

He got married five years ago for immigration reasons, which didn’t make any sense to me, but he and the young lady were still married, but they separated a year later. They had little to no contact since that time; she no longer lived in the BVI, and they had no communication, but I was still on the fence about it because marriage is a covenant between God and man, you know.

Our church leader knew he was married and even ministered to him a month before we met that he needed to hurry up and get divorced because God was sending him his wife, but he didn’t budge because he was more focused on his business than the Divorce at the time. He figured the money would better be used for tools than a divorce.

Oh, was he wrong

Now, here we were, God placed us together, but there was an obstacle in our way.

A month before we met, God had even told me to visit a particular jewellery store to choose a ring.

Then he also told me to start planning the wedding! I quickly messaged another church sister (Sis Shanice) and told her what the Holy Spirit said. She was just as excited for me even though I didn’t know who the person was then.

While God was telling him to get a divorce, I was planning our wedding without even knowing who he was.

Within three weeks of our meeting, he began the divorce process.

The first time he met my parents, he asked them for my hand in marriage, and we had only been courting for a month!

I was shooketh!

He was serious!

A few months passed, and the enemy began playing with my mind.

I began questioning this man as the one God sent to me. I wrestled with not wanting to marry the wrong person, which was a fear of mine. I never wanted to marry someone that God didn’t send to me.

It bothered me to the core so much so that I started to dislike the man.

Until one day, I had a heart-to-heart with another Church Sister, Sis Latisha.

And BAM!

The Holy Spirit reminded me of a verse in the Book of Ruth that I had read before, but I received revelation later in life. It’s in Chapter 3, I’m not going to post it here, but basically, Naiomi instructed Ruth to lay at the feet of Boaz as a signal to him or to initiate contact with him as her kinsman-redeemer and later on her husband.

So basically, the Holy Spirit reminded me that HE instructed me to initiate contact with him via text. I was the one to initiate contact with my kinsman.

SO THAT WAS THE CONFIRMATION THAT I NEEDED TO STOP QUESTIONING GOD.

He couldn’t give me an engagement ring by this time since he was already married, so he purchased a promise ring instead.

We had been courting, and he was headstrong about marrying me, but we still had to wait for the Divorce to be finalised.

What a Waiting Game That Was!

My grandmother died in May 2022, around the same time a family member received some troubling health news, so my life was a complete mess.

We hoped for the Divorce to be finalized in July 2022, but that didn’t happen, so we continued courting.

This man Loved me with everything within him, but I still struggled.

I struggled with the thought of not knowing him. God had placed us together, but I knew nothing about him; he wasn’t “my type”; he wasn’t the typical man I’d be interested in, but he was the man God sent for me.

So, it’s something that took a while for me to cope with.

I had already contacted the makeup artist and Hair Stylist because we were aiming for a July 2022 wedding, but as time drew near, there was no divorce in sight, so I postponed that. He paid for me to spend my weekend at Wyndham Hotel Lambert Beach. Of course, he visited but never spent the night.

The Divorce was finalized in September 2022. Around that time, I travelled with a family member for a medical referral as they needed a consultation with a surgeon. The consultation went well, and we returned and planned for another trip in October.

For the October trip, we stayed away for three weeks. By the end of those three weeks, I felt different and ready to be with him. When I returned, I told him I was ready and engaged in the wedding planning, but a part of me didn’t push until I got my ring! So I was in slow motion.

On December 19th HE PROPOSED!

He proposed at my job, at the exact spot where he retrieved the Pack of BE THE LIGHT cards from me.

The Wedding

Now, it was time to continue planning the wedding.

After some prayer, the date was February 18th, 2023.

I was never a big fan of weddings, honestly. I always thought they were a waste of money, but little did I know that small weddings are just as costly.

There’s hair, makeup, photos, a caterer, venue. My LORD, I was so through.

We decided against a wedding party because I couldn’t handle the drama of coordinating multiple people. I only wanted myself and my future husband at the altar, and that’s it!

Planning a wedding perturbed me, so I enlisted the talented Sis Amirah Gordon to assist.

We discussed the overall theme and she made everything 100 times better. The team understood the Assignment!

I also made her daughter and my niece-in-law the flower girls and my nephew the ring bearer.

I received a dress for free, praise God, so that was one less thing to worry about.

We purchased everything in intervals using our salaries/savings, and we also received assistance from family.